Narcissism negatively impacts relationships. Narcissism is proliferating, effecting more lives and at the heart of so much emotional and spiritual pain and suffering." -- A.J. Mahari
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This website is new and under construction. If you click on a link that isn't up yet please check back soon. In the meantime please visit my newest Blog for more about narcissism. You can also visit my BPD Blog or my BPD Website for even more at borderlinepersonality.ca
Please Note: I am in the process of moving a few blogs and if you find a post of interest in a widget in the right hand menu that is a broken link (this will not affect my BPD Blog) this will be fixed very soon. In the meantime you can go to ajmahari.com to visit my individual websites on topics covered in the blog widget posts. - A.J Mahari - June 25/09
Narcissism isn't just about or present only in Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It is also part of Borderline Personality and other disorders. Narcissism also exists to varying degrees in some in the absence of personality disorders. We also live in a world and in culture steeped in proliferating narcissism. Narcissism of all types and degrees negatively impacts relating and relationships.
This is a new website that examines and explores Narcissistic Personality Disorder separately along with NPD that is co-morbid with Borderline Personality Disorder and includes many issues that indicate narcissism or are the results of someone's narcissism in life generally and in relationships specifically.
This website will also focus on the narcissism that is part of Borderline Personality Disorder, to varying degrees in those with BPD.
A.J.'s Introductory Video About Narcissism - NPD & BPD
Recognizing and Coping with Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissism, Narcissistic Personality Disorder & Borderline Personality Disorder In Perspective
Does Love Erode in a Relationship With a Narcissist?
Toxic Relationships and The Need to Let Go
The False Self in and of Borderline Personality Disorder and its Pathological Narcissism
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and the narcissistic traits found in Borderline Personality Disorder
unfold within the reality that we do live in what many would largely define as a narcissistic culture.
While narcissism in all its forms and contexts and from its many contributing causes is being talked about much
more widely, the question that remains and looms large is, is anything being done about what is producing the next
generation of those who will be burdened by the pain of narcissistic traits or the types and degrees of narcissism seen
in various personality disorders?
How are loved ones of those with narcissistic traits or a personality disorder and significant relational impacting
narcissism coping? Or are they often not aware, not coping, and being hurt deeply as a result? Do you have a loved one
with BPD, NPD or both BPD/NPD? Are you feeling like you are drowning in the invisibility that is experienced on the
other side of self-absorption and narcissistic emotional unavailability? Is "it" always about your husband or your wife,
your mother or your father or an important friend in your life? What do you need to do? What do you need to
understand? How can you address and take care of your own pain?
Do you have BPD, NPD, or both? Do you have strong narcissitic traits? Do you experience difficulty relating to others
and and perhaps not understand why? Are you impatient? Do you harshly and quickly devalue and judge others when they
aren't doing of saying what you want them to? Are you in pain? Do you feel lonely or alone? Do you feel disconnected?
Do you wonder why things are as they are in your relational life? Do you feel like "it" is always about you?
Questions. There are so many questions about narcissism and its effects on relating and relationships. Questions in
pursuit of trying to find some relief from incredible pain and suffering for those who are narcissistic and/or have a
personality disorder and for those who love and/or care about them. So, what are the answers? How can you find the answers?
Please keep checking back here for more information, coming very soon, that seeks to shed light on many of the questions
and that will hopefully provide food for thought as you seach for the answers that you need to find in your own life. In the
meantime you can check out my newest Blog to read more. © A.J. Mahari, March 20, 2009
Recognizing and Coping with Narcissistic Abuse
© A.J. Mahari
Narcissistic abuse can be the result of any unhealthy or toxic relationship with any personality disordered person those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and other disorders.
Those who have NPD perpetrate verbal, emotional, and/or physical abuse against others often lacking insight into and/or empathy about the effect they have on others. Those who have BPD are also often the perpetrators of verbal, emotional, physical abuse, and/or domestic violence against those who are closet to them.
Those with personality disorders, to varying degrees, have narcissistic traits, and a primitive personality structure that renders them emotionally unavailable and prone to the use of primitive dysfunctional and abusive defense mechanisms when stressed and/or trying to relate outside of self. READ MORE ...
Narcissism, Narcissistic Personality Disorder & Borderline Personality Disorder In Perspective
© A.J. Mahari
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is part of a wider continuum of narcissism not the sum total of it all. NPD is not the sole domain of narcissism. It is important to understand there are many faces to narcissism and that it manifests in different ways for different reasons outside of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder does not house all narcissism. Narcissism is common to all personality disorders to some degree. Those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) also wrestle with it as I outline in my Ebook The Shadows and Echoes of Self - The False Self Born Out of the Core Wound of Abandonment in BPD © A.J. Mahari- March 2007. We also live in an increasingly narcissistic world with proliferating cultural narcissism that also forms the landscape of considerable heartache and frustration in human interaction, individually and collectively. READ MORE ...
Does Love Erode in a Relationship With a Narcissist?
© A.J. Mahari, March 21, 2009
Does love erode in a relationship with a narcissist? Does it just erode, implode or explode, does it simply self-destruct? What happens to love in these relationships? Why are these relationships so painful for those who are not personality-disordered?
What are you supposed to do with the various forms of wreckage left in the wake of the rupture of so-called love - the love you thought you shared with someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and/or Borderline Personality Disorder?
It is important to admit that the narcissist isn't capable of healthy adult love. It is important to admit and accept that the narcissist can only experience the world from a frame of reference that is self-absorbed. Relating or trying to love someone else from the vortex of emptiness inside that is so painful to the narcissist that it is constantly being overcompensated for is not ever a dynamic that can house healthy love.
READ MORE ...
Toxic Relationships and The Need to Let Go
© A.J. Mahari
Life is a series of hellos and good-byes. It is about attaching, connecting, and often separating and then detaching, disconnecting and letting go. In toxic relationships all-too-often one or both participants are not skilled when it comes to limits, boundaries, or letting go. Toxic people get addicted and have issues of neediness that cause them to avoid letting go when a healthier person would run the other way from the sheer emotional pain and suffering alone.
Not all connections are healthy ones. Many people get involved in what are known as toxic unhealthy relationships or even friendships. You can identify a toxic unhealthy relational dynamic when you feel that you are losing yourself to the control, wants, temper, or abuse of another, or if you are the one becoming abusive yourself for whatever reason. READ MORE ...
The False Self in and of Borderline Personality Disorder and its Pathological Narcissism
© A.J. Mahari
It is the Borderline False Self that houses pathological narcissism.
Narcissism, pathological narcissism, is not just found in those who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) also wrestle with it as I outline in my ebook, The Shadows and Echoes of Self - The False Self Born Out of the Core Wound of Abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder.
The core wound of abandonment that is experienced by those with Borderline Personality Disorder is, in fact central to what largely causes and shapes Borderline Personality Disorder. The pathological narcissism of the borderline false self is at the core of almost everything borderline.
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