Life coach, A.J. Mahari, in her latest audio, How To Identify a Toxic Relationship, gives listeners 7 tips on how to identify a toxic relationship. Toxic relationships are becoming much more common than most people may realize. So common, in fact, toxic relationships are the new normal for way too many people. A new normal that is painful and mentally and physically dangerous to health.
Toxic relationships are proliferating in what is a narcissistic cultural landscape. Are these relationships mistakes? If a toxic relationship is a mistake I would argue that once you begin to learn from it and let it teach you that it becomes a precious mistake. that can be turned into a profound growth opportunity. Do you view an experience in a toxic relationship as a mistake or as a growth opportunity?
People with narcissism or who have narcissistic tendencies (personality-disordered or not) often behave in toxic and/or abuse ways. People diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Borderline Personality Disorder can often be difficult and challenging to cope with.
What is often not thought about in the arena of human life is that for all of the ability we have to think, feel, and perceive that may set us apart from other animals, we are after all still animals. We, like other animals do, have instincts. We all-too-often think our way out of what we know so well and so quickly and refer to as gut instincts that we can, if we are not careful, leave ourselves wide open to falling prey to the predatory toxic and personality-disordered.
A look at the experience and consequences of borderline narcissism prefaced by an explanation of the roots of narcissism in both Greek Mythology and Psychoanalysis. I also include a description of the difference between Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The Shadows and Echoes of Self – The False Self Born Out Of The Core Wound Of Abandonment In Borderline Personality Disorder – Ebook by A.J. Mahari © March 2007
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is part of a wider continuum of narcissism not the sum total of it all. NPD is not the sole domain of narcissism. It is important to understand there are many faces to narcissism and that it manifests in different ways for different reasons outside of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Narcissistic abuse can be the result of any unhealthy or toxic relationship with any personality disordered person those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and other disorders.
Does love erode in a relationship with a narcissist? Does it just erode, implode or explode, does it simply self-destruct? What happens to love in these relationships? Why are these relationships so painful for those who are not personality-disordered?
It is the Borderline False Self that houses the pathological narcissism in those who have Borderline Personality Disorder. Narcissism, pathological narcissism, is not just found in those who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) also wrestle with it as I outline in my newest ebook, available now The Shadows and Echoes of Self – The False Self Born Out of the Core Wound of Abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder.
Are you in a toxic relationship? Are things chaotic, dramatic, with lots of conflict? Did you ever think love could be that complicated? Well, guess what, love is not really that complicated at all.
What is felt and shared in toxic relationships is not healthy love. It is toxic love. It is more often than not a kind of codependency. It can be likened to an addiction.