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Narcissism negatively impacts relationships. Narcissism is proliferating, effecting more lives and at the heart of so much emotional and spiritual pain and suffering." -- A.J. Mahari

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Relationship Dynamics - Narcissism

This website is new and under construction. If you click on a link that isn't up yet please check back soon. In the meantime please visit my newest Blog for more about narcissism. You can also visit my BPD Blog or my BPD Website for even more at borderlinepersonality.ca

Narcissism isn't just about or present only in Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It is also part of Borderline Personality and other disorders. Narcissism also exists to varying degrees in some in the absence of personality disorders. We also live in a world and in culture steeped in proliferating narcissism. Narcissism of all types and degrees negatively impacts relating and relationships.

There are relationship dynamics that often unfold, aside from individual factors, in very patterned ways. Patterned ways that are often very painful, abusive, and toxic. Relationship dynamics for the non-personality-disordered with those with strong narcissistic traits, Narcissistic and/or Borderline Personality Disorders continue to not be what is needed or what one thought they were or what one hoped they were.

As a life coach and strategist, I work with many people who still are in relationships with those who are narcissistic and/or personality-disordered along with many who have left these types of relationships but find that they are experiencing many blocks to moving forward. My Life coaching Services can help you to identify and address what might be blocking you and help you to identify your own goals and then how to effectively meet those goals.

Please check back for more information coming here very soon.

A.J.'s Introductory Video About Narcissism - NPD & BPD

Recognizing and Coping with Narcissistic Abuse

Does Love Erode in a Relationship With a Narcissist?

Toxic Relationships and The Need to Let Go

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and the narcissistic traits found in Borderline Personality Disorder unfold within the reality that we do live in what many would largely define as a narcissistic culture.

While narcissism in all its forms and contexts and from its many contributing causes is being talked about much more widely, the question that remains and looms large is, is anything being done about what is producing the next generation of those who will be burdened by the pain of narcissistic traits or the types and degrees of narcissism seen in various personality disorders?

How are loved ones of those with narcissistic traits or a personality disorder and significant relational impacting narcissism coping? Or are they often not aware, not coping, and being hurt deeply as a result? Do you have a loved one with BPD, NPD or both BPD/NPD? Are you feeling like you are drowning in the invisibility that is experienced on the other side of self-absorption and narcissistic emotional unavailability? Is "it" always about your husband or your wife, your mother or your father or an important friend in your life? What do you need to do? What do you need to understand? How can you address and take care of your own pain?

Do you have BPD, NPD, or both? Do you have strong narcissitic traits? Do you experience difficulty relating to others and and perhaps not understand why? Are you impatient? Do you harshly and quickly devalue and judge others when they aren't doing of saying what you want them to? Are you in pain? Do you feel lonely or alone? Do you feel disconnected? Do you wonder why things are as they are in your relational life? Do you feel like "it" is always about you?

Questions. There are so many questions about narcissism and its effects on relating and relationships. Questions in pursuit of trying to find some relief from incredible pain and suffering for those who are narcissistic and/or have a personality disorder and for those who love and/or care about them. So, what are the answers? How can you find the answers?

Please keep checking back here for more information, coming very soon, that seeks to shed light on many of the questions and that will hopefully provide food for thought as you seach for the answers that you need to find in your own life. In the meantime you can check out my newest Blog to read more.

© A.J. Mahari, March 20, 2009

A.J.'s Introductory Video About Narcissism - NPD & BPD

Recognizing and Coping with Narcissistic Abuse

© A.J. Mahari

Narcissistic abuse can be the result of any unhealthy or toxic relationship with any personality disordered person those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and other disorders.

Those who have NPD perpetrate verbal, emotional, and/or physical abuse against others often lacking insight into and/or empathy about the effect they have on others. Those who have BPD are also often the perpetrators of verbal, emotional, physical abuse, and/or domestic violence against those who are closet to them.

Those with personality disorders, to varying degrees, have narcissistic traits, and a primitive personality structure that renders them emotionally unavailable and prone to the use of primitive dysfunctional and abusive defense mechanisms when stressed and/or trying to relate outside of self. READ MORE ...

Does Love Erode in a Relationship With a Narcissist?

© A.J. Mahari, March 21, 2009

Does love erode in a relationship with a narcissist? Does it just erode, implode or explode, does it simply self-destruct? What happens to love in these relationships? Why are these relationships so painful for those who are not personality-disordered?

What are you supposed to do with the various forms of wreckage left in the wake of the rupture of so-called love - the love you thought you shared with someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and/or Borderline Personality Disorder?

It is important to admit that the narcissist isn't capable of healthy adult love. It is important to admit and accept that the narcissist can only experience the world from a frame of reference that is self-absorbed. Relating or trying to love someone else from the vortex of emptiness inside that is so painful to the narcissist that it is constantly being overcompensated for is not ever a dynamic that can house healthy love.


Toxic Relationships and The Need to Let Go

© A.J. Mahari

Life is a series of hellos and good-byes. It is about attaching, connecting, and often separating and then detaching, disconnecting and letting go. In toxic relationships all-too-often one or both participants are not skilled when it comes to limits, boundaries, or letting go. Toxic people get addicted and have issues of neediness that cause them to avoid letting go when a healthier person would run the other way from the sheer emotional pain and suffering alone.

Not all connections are healthy ones. Many people get involved in what are known as toxic unhealthy relationships or even friendships. You can identify a toxic unhealthy relational dynamic when you feel that you are losing yourself to the control, wants, temper, or abuse of another, or if you are the one becoming abusive yourself for whatever reason. READ MORE ...

© A.J. Mahari, March 20, 2009

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